Comments on: My husbands sex drive is gone. What could be the problem? I have even offered him a prostate massage?

By: Jay R

Jay R — Thu, 16 Apr 2009 12:00:16 +0000

It sounds like you need to schedule two appointments:

1. Contact your doctor and have him help your husband resolve the bed wetting. That’s not normal and could be the sign of serious health problems.

2. Contact a reputable sex therapist. Don’t flinch at the cost. Consider it an investment in your most precious resource, your marriage.

By: rosepetal777

rosepetal777 — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 12:48:06 +0000

I think that the genral concensus is that it might be a health problem, and i agree. An ex boyfriend i had suffered from a simular problem and we found out that he was diabetic, but because he was worrying about it maybe being the big C affected his sex drive until he was not able to RISE TO THE OCCASION.

By: my answer is:

my answer is: — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 08:24:29 +0000

Is this enough for you to leave him over?

It sounds like you are talking openly and honestly about how you feel and what you are feeling, but he may not be able to talk with you. Maybe you should seek a couples counselor that specializes in sexual relations (or something?) to mediate.

Communication will be the key !!

By: sweetpicker

sweetpicker — Sun, 12 Apr 2009 15:10:58 +0000

He probably needs to see a doctor about his prostate (urology) and a doctor about checking his hormone level (testosterone). Wetting the bed is probably a carry over from childhood (has he done it all his life?) or another problem that is just developing. Sexually asking, begging, etc. is not a good thing - it usually doesn’t do any good in the long run. If he refuses to get help you need to make some decision on your life and marriage.

By: massgolfer0606

massgolfer0606 — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 16:44:42 +0000

Go to a Dr first..Make sure there is nothing physically wrong with him. If so have it treated and, see where it goes from there.

I do not know how old he is but, I will tell you that it is more common than most people think for guys to lose their sex drive.
It could be anything from low-self esteem, stress, fear of failure, performance anxiety or he might just be tired and, overworked.

Work on becoming intimate in some non sexual ways first (ie: holding hands, hugging, cuddling, relaxing together)

Talk about what might be bothering him but, whatever you do DO NOT pressure him for sex. If you do it will just increase some of the psychological problems he may be having.

In the meantime…get some toys and, take care of yourself. He may find it erotic to watch?

By: BETTYNJAMES

BETTYNJAMES — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 09:26:31 +0000

he seriously needs to go to the doctor because what man doesnt like sex? if its not that there might be a possibility that hes doing it with someone else…keep your eyes open

By: Mik

Mik — Sat, 04 Apr 2009 01:16:55 +0000

Make him go to doctor. Is clear he is sick and men are senstive when it comes to these things.

By: Sandra T

Sandra T — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 14:00:31 +0000

You didn’t give an age here on either of you. Your husband needs to have a physical exam. There is a condition called hypothyroidsim that can cause this condition. Have him get a physical with blood work to check for this condition. After he starts getting treatment for the thyroid, then get some cialis. Things will improve.

By: twiglet

twiglet — Sun, 29 Mar 2009 13:53:35 +0000

Try taking classes your self for blow jobs get lots of sex tapes play toys etc.. this may help alot….

By: FREDDYN

FREDDYN — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 11:43:59 +0000

You offered him a prostate massage. Wow. What’s your number?